HOW DO I TOUCH A WOMAN THE RIGHT WAY?
I get asked this question a lot. And for good reason, many guys out there have a tough time with kinesthetic escalation. In Laymen’s terms. Guys have a hard time knowing when and how to touch girls. And just to clarify, I’m not talking sexually, (I could probably write a dissertation on that subject alone.)
TODAY I’M GOING TO TAKE YOU THROUGH THE BASICS ON TOUCH.
Ever been on a date and had that urge to reach over and rub her shoulder? Want to give her a hug but you can never tell when the right moment is? This is a real-world problem that millions of men are suffering from. But after you read this brief article, you’re going to walk away feeling way better about how to touch her and when those right moments are.
THERE ARE MULTIPLE PLACES WHERE YOU CAN COMFORTABLY TOUCH SOMEONE AND GET A POSITIVE RESPONSE BACK FROM THEM.
The first, and easiest, is the elbow. The elbow is considered public domain. It’s very difficult to make someone feel uncomfortable while touching their elbow. Unless you’re weirdly caressing it or doing something strangely abnormal, a light touch on the elbow is great.
What you really want to do is break the hand barrier. The elbow is great if you’re out of options, but to win her heart, the hand barrier must be broken as soon as possible. There are two ways you could go about this, and I admit, I use them both.
Palm reading. (Yes, I said it.) Watch a video on basic palm reading, practice it a bit, then apply it. You don’t have to be a wiz kid, trust me. Just demonstrating that you understand rudimentary palm reading will go a long way. Just grab her hand, (when the moment’s right,) rest it gently in yours, and start to analyze it. She’ll be very interested to know what you have to say.
Your second option is much easier, but a little less effective.. Grab her hand and press it up against yours comparing sizes. Then make the comment, “Wow, your hand is a lot smaller than mine.” Then briskly rub it for a second to warm it up, then let go.
THE HAND BARRIER MUST BE BROKEN IF YOU ARE GOING TO BECOME MORE INTIMATE WITH THE OTHER PERSON!
Next, are the shoulders and hips. I’m about to show you a way to tackle them both at the same time. The best way to approach the shoulder is with an embrace. Placing your hand on a shoulder when you’re saying something like, “Good job.” is commonplace and will always work. But what you can do next is super tactful and will instantly help you break down the next barrier.
After embracing the other person’s shoulder, you quickly and gently drag your hand down to their hips, then let go. Voila, the two of you have just gotten much closer.
Now, as you can see, each spot on the body increases intimacy depending on where you are touching the person. This is where timing is important.
There are 2 distinct moments during an interaction with another person that completely and utterly justify you touching them. And after I go over this with you, I strongly urge you to try this with a friend to test it out.
Just be warned, these tips are ridiculously simple. After reading them, you might think to yourself, no, there’s gotta be more to it than that, but I promise you, it is this simple.
IT’S ALL ABOUT EXCLAMATIONS AND QUESTIONS.
Whenever you make a statement that would end with an exclamation point, you can touch the other person. And whenever you ask a question, you can touch the other person.
It is important that you try this out to know what I’m talking about. Ask, the person next to you a question, and while the words are spilling out of your mouth, touch them. Do the same while using an exclamation. Then, don’t use either of those two methods. Just touch the person while making an ordinary statement.
If the person is being honest with you, they will tell you that they felt totally comfortable when you touched them the first couple of times, but the last touch would have felt weird.
Now ask them to do it to you.
You now have a few of the keys to making touch a much more enjoyable, comfortable experience for the two of you.
Keep your eyes here on our site, because next time, I’m going to tell you about my 100% foolproof way of securing the first kiss without any bit of being uncomfortable or any awkwardness.